CAN YOU BUILD YOUR OWN HAPPINESS?
HAPPINESS
This is
about how to make ourselves happier, because life don’t quite deal with the cards we expect. Wouldn’t it be fantastic
if we find out how to make ourselves happy and how to turn problems into opportunities… I personally feel unhappy most
of the days in a year and I always wonder why? Is it only me? Are there any ways how to improve my feelings, emotions, needs?
I find it hard to let negative feelings go, I feel that everything is about money. I realize that if I work hard, earn enough
money, I can make my life better and concentrate on things I always wanted to do. But it is just the thought that the first
thing I have to think about is "money" makes me feel sick. There are some clever people out there, who think about happiness
as a new science and they have put together so called HAPPINESS MANIFESTO. This manifesto can help us to become happier. Let’s
just try it with me. We have to do following recommendations for two months at
least and see the difference they make…
HAPPINESS MANIFESTO
1. Get physical
Exercise for
half an hour three times a week. Regular exercise improves your sense of wellbeing and reduces stress. Exercise can improve
your mental health, with none of the side effects common to pharmaceutical remedies.
2. Count your blessings
At the end of
each day, reflect on at least five things you’re grateful for. Everyone has things in their life for which they can
be grateful. If you spend all the time thinking about problems, as some people do, you’re unlikely to feel very happy.
We all get negative thoughts and feelings from time to time. Problems with relationships, pressures at home or at work, worries
about money or physical health can lead to feelings of stress and anxiety, or even, in some people, to a sense of desperation
and hopelessness. Expressing our feelings openly promotes a sense of wellbeing and freedom from tension. Is helps us to recover
from hurtful experiences, and also helps other people to understand what’s going on inside us. Of course, there are
times when displays of emotion aren’t helpful, but hiding or holding back our feelings can cause tensions that affect
our physical and mental health.
Arguments are
healthy, too, as long as they don’t become unpleasant. In fact, some psychologists even say that a happy relationship
needs a 20 percent quota of conflict. Learning to disagree, without making each other unhappy, is an important part of any
relationship. However, rage and destructive anger aren’t healthy or helpful.
3. Talk time
Have an hour-long
uninterrupted conversation with your partner or closest friend each week. Talking to friends is a good chance to share your
feelings and experiences, and a chance to catch up on the latest gossip! Expressing your emotions can help you to think more
positively about life.
4. Plant something
Even if it is
a window-box or pot plant. Keep it alive! Growing plants gives a sense of achievement. You could grow some herbs on your kitchen
windowsill.
5. Cut your TV viewing by half
Too much TV is
linked to unhappiness, perhaps because it uses up the time we could spend on things that do make us happy: time with our partners,
friends, exercise, learning new skills, socializing, even gardening!
6. Smile at or say hello to a stranger at least once a day
Smiling and showing
emotions has a real positive effect, not only on making you fell better, but also on other people around you. It is hard for
other people not to respond positively to you if you are smiling.
7. Phone a friend
Make contact
with at least one friend or relation you have not been in contact with for a while and arrange to meet up. Having a strong
social network makes you feel supported and secure, which, in turn, leads to feeling content.
8. Have a good laugh at least once a day
It is often said
that laughter is the best medicine. It is a great stress reliever. Laughter “boosts blood vessels”.
9. Every day make sure you give yourself a treat and take time to really enjoy it
Be good to yourself.
Make more time.
10. Daily kindness
Do an extra good
turn for someone each day, volunteer…
HAPPINESS AT WORK
I believe in
doing, not talking, making things happen, keep going, trying new ways… If I think about working environment, it makes
us very often unhappy. There are ways how to change the way we feel, I can think of some examples:
1. We need
good atmosphere at work,
2. We need
being thanked,
3. We need
friends at work,
4. We need
getting things done,
5. We need
to get some feedback,
6. We need
to help people to focus,
7. We need
to turn problems into opportunities,
7. Quality
rather than quantity,
8. If we do too
many things at once, we can and up with nothing…
